How to Find Fearlessness When You Are Feeling Afraid


Earlier this week, I experienced an anxiety attack. I was getting ready to go into the biggest interview of my life. I had to calm down, breathe, and continue to take the steps necessary to lay hold of my dreams. It was scary, but it was everything I needed to let me know I could do more than what I expected of myself.

Here are some ways for you to find that inner fearlessness:

Don’t second-guess yourself. You only miss the shots you don’t take, right? So, why fear striking out? Just do it and see how it goes. There are so many things that I’ve done just by going out on a limb and it worked out. I learned so much in the process. If I allowed myself to overthink about a decision before I ever made the decision, I would’ve never become the person I am today.

Learn to say no. Saying no doesn’t make you lesser than. This doesn’t mean that you lack anything. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries with people. If you lose someone due to you saying no, then that means they don’t deserve your yes. Saying no to someone else is your way of saying yes to yourself. Do it a lot more often until it becomes second nature. If I learned the value of no a little earlier, I think I would’ve tapped into my potential a long time ago.

Try spring cleaning. Many of us are familiar with cleaning up our rooms when spring hits. But, do we ever take the time to clean up the messes in our lives? Take some time to do some self-reflection. Go to therapy, rid yourself of toxic people, and be willing to break bad habits. You will then be ready to conquer the world.

Do something fearless. Go skydiving or try a new makeup look. Hang out with your best friends and tell your biggest secrets. Just be yourself without sugarcoating it. Eventually, you’ll find that fearlessness comes easiest when you’re walking in your truth-and having some fun while doing so.

Today, I challenge you to be fearless in the pursuit of your dreams or whatever makes your heart race. When you feel those nervous butterflies fluttering around in your stomach, that’s your time to go for it. And when you reach your goals, go for it again with the intention to do better. You’ll be unstoppable.

By Gabrielle Reed